You Can’t Rush Their Recovery

October 19, 2014 in Jim's Journal

Have you ever said the wrong thing?  Have you ever done something that you regretted?  Have you ever let someone down or did something that was totally out of your character?  Probably, in each case, the person on the receiving end was hurt, saddened or deeply disappointed.  Let me guess, you immediately apologized. You vowed never to do it again.  You may have even given them an “I’m sorry,” gift card.  Here’s where you probably went wrong.  You moved for them to “get over it” too quickly.  You hoped that they would just keep it moving.  You wanted things to immediately go back to the way it used to be.  Slow down cowboy/cowgirl!  You’re not the one in pain.  You’re not wounded.  You’re not the one reflecting on, “why did he/she do that?”  If you are the person responsible for the heartache, remember, you cannot rush their recovery.  You cannot fast-forward them BACK to “the good old times.”  What they need from you is patience, understanding and probably some distance.  Pray that you’ve deposited enough good will into their emotional bank account that they will invite you back into their life.  Learn from the experience and don’t make that poor choice again.  Notice that I did not immediately write mistake.  What happened evolved into a mistake, but started out as a poor choice.  We have to lift people up, not tear them down!


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